Scared of online dating but seems only option?

I have been single for about a year now but have decided to find a nice man to settle down with. Problem is that I haven't met anyone who fits my description. I don't do bars, would attend parties occasionally and can't ask a man out. Was adviced to try online dating but I have heard so many horror stories. What are your experiences, if any ?

Scared of online dating but seems only option?
I have personally never tried online dating, but wanted to answer your question b/c I have friends who have tried it.





I think it is kind of hit-and-miss. Some sites like yahoo personals are not a good idea; there are so many young people on there looking for a good time. I have 2 friends who have had successful relationships (one is getting married next summer) with men they met on eharmony.com. This site makes you get to know the person well before you meet. Supposedly, it is expensive but both of them say it was worth it. I think match.com is somewhere in the middle (lots of kids, but some older as well)





The best advice I can say in general is not to appear desparate to settle down too soon! You should find out if the guy is looking for a relationship but don't force it too early. Also, I would talk to the person online for a while, then on the phone, before deciding to meet in person. When you do meet, take a friend or couple with you for a double date! Good luck!
Reply:i found that the problem with the dating sites is most are computer generated and if you get answers back i suggest a photo i had a fifteen year old try to meet up with me I'm 29 so be car full of it and what state you from
Reply:I met and married a fantastic man through on-line dating. I joined with an open mind and no real expectations and with in a week got a message from a guy who live in same small town as me, the rest as they say is history. It worked for me
Reply:There are pluses and minuses about online dating. I will give the minus first just so you have something to look forward to. You don't always know if the person on the other end is really telling you the truth. You have to trust them and see where it goes from there. They could be some 13 year old (or 60 year old) that is just screwing around. There is no real way to tell unless you meet them in person.





The plus side is that the person on the other end could be the perfect match for you. All you have to do is make the time to get to know the true them (or hope that they are actually telling you the truth). I met my (now) husband on the internet. We dated for 2 and a half years, we have a 2 year old son and have been married for 6 months. You could always find your dream mate (as I did) over the internet...you just have to give it a chance.
Reply:I don't have any horror stories or any experience for that matter in the whole online dating thing but I know exactly how you feel and was seriously thinking the same exact thing when I happened to stumble upon your question. My problem is that my friends are limited, gone out to bars and always meet someone but they are usually out for one thing and I don't even want to bother with that. I work full-time but the only guys that come here are far too old for my liking, and my friends don't really know of anyone and I don't get out as much as I would like too. So here I am wondering if online dating is my only option and to be honest I really wish it wasn't because of the whole stigma attached that it is only for the weirdos and pathetic. I think though that if you are ready to start dating and meet new people and nothing else is working, then by all means try it out. My mom met her husband online (he is from Scotland and shes in NY) and they are happy together so not all stories about online dating are of the horror genre...lol...Good luck to you and although I couldn't really give you any real stories about online dating (whether good or bad) at least you know your not the only one who is in this same perdicament. Take Care:)
Reply:you can do anything you set your mind to do..there's nothing wrong with asking a guy out..the worst that can happen is that he will say no..why leave it up to the guys all the time to make the first move? you might end up pretty lonely if you wait for them to make the move





dating on line is just fine if you use your common sense..no different than other forms of dating
Reply:Mostly people lying about their looks or weight. Had one gal e-mail a picture. Good looking! Oh yes....for a picture that was about 20 years ago.
Reply:It can be fun but also frustrating at times. There are a lot of liars and freaks out there, you have to keep your BS detector on :) But it is another way to meet people you wouldn't have met otherwise, and it's nice to be able to "screen" your criteria for age, location, education, religion etc. I've had a handful of dates and one 6-month relationship with people I met through personals, if you're curious, go ahead and give it a try. Basic rules: keep your expectations low, don't take anything personally, and be prepared for more rejection than response. That's just how it goes. You probably find the biggest variety of people on yahoo personals or match.com.
Reply:I like your name thing. No I'm not scared of online dating. I think it is kinda fun.
Reply:Iv been single for a while to...online dateing is not the only way...keep in mind online dateing may be good for just personality but looks matter as well...and most guys lie...so i would say that you would be better off just looking around...someone will have you for who you are and not over the internet