Online Dating, met guy stationed in Iraq?

ok so here it goes. I have always been careful about online dating but I just happen to meet a guy that's in Iraq but not on the frontline. Now, it's only been a month but we have hit it off so well, a little to well I might say but I have to be realistic, he's lonely and been there for over a year so is he passing time with me and other women too? He's telling me everything I want to hear and It's crazy but I'm started to care about him and he says he does too...but of course I'm not sure. I can be the many chat girlfriends he has...he calls me everyday, we chat online everyday....We're on the phone of long periods of time, we have talked about everything and anything....I've been very hurt in the past and I think I want to step back a notch but I look forward to his calls and hearing his voice, stupid huh but I'm just scared. He's coming sometime in March but is he coming to be with me(so he says) or other women? Just really confused....

Online Dating, met guy stationed in Iraq?
I just answered a question like this . I have had some previous experiance with this and to make a long answer really really short. You dont know a person till you meet them no matter how much you talk to them on phone, or the net . No matter how many presents you send or recieve. NO matter how many times the person says they love you.





I had a net/phone relationship for almost 2 years and finally went from usa to aussie and the person dumped me cold with no care about it all to her and we talked like 10-15 hours a day .... it ruined my life because i lost all my friends and intrests for a supposed love... It turned out to be more of an infactuation for love that i wanted to be love.





Yes , it is possible that you 2 will hit it off good but there is no way to tell till he is there and then you might be deeper then you want to be in it and hard to get out.





and finally yes that was the short version.
Reply:You are right to keep your heart in check for a while.


But since he calls you everyday for long periods of time, I think it won't be plausible that he is also talking with other women. Have you ever asked him?


It seems he is looking forward to meet you. When you've met him in person, you might have a better idea of what kind of guy he is. And how he feels about you.


It's up to you, if you're scared to get too much involved, then you might better stop the contact.
Reply:I live around three military bases.I have seen this work out and i have seen the man come home to his wife.(i am not saying this one is married)


But,I would take things slow and explain to him you adore him as friend but in all realtiy you need to see what happens face to face.(I have met several online)some are good some are scary in person!!LOL


Its not stupid he has time there and he is giving you what you need attention support and love and you are filling a void for him.


It may be real just have faith what is suppose to happen happens andwhat isnt we learn from.


remember to becareful meeting anyone offline.public place and maybe with your friends.


you will really never know who is tlaking to over there..but some people do hit it off.It alot more serious than regular relationship because he has connected to your emotions (what every girl wants) in real life sometimes they do not tend to do that.good luck
Reply:I would wait to see if he actually does come. If he does then I say go for it because I think that's a big step in his commitment to pursuing you. But please please definitely be cautious. You may think you know him but in all actuality you only know what he tells you and what you see when he talks to you. I'm not saying not to be trusting him just... don't give him more trust than what he's earned. And keep your eye out for anything fishy. But maybe keep it as friend oriented as possible until you meet him in person.

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