Question about online dating?

I met a guy online about a month ago now. We have gone on three dates and have a date lined up for this weekend. All seems to be going well, however he has made some comments that are a bit "interesting".





1) He told me he wants me to have his baby. (We have NEVER had sex yet and haven't even discussed a true relationship/committment yet!)





2) He keeps alluding to his prowess in the bedroom and has said he's "holding out" on sex until I'm ready to have it with him.





3) Despite these "over the top" statements (Am I right? Are they a bit off?) he still continues to search the dating site where we met every day?!!





Does the fact that he's still looking mean that my gut feelings that he's a player are right? I don't want to misjudge him, but he seems to be a bit all over the place!





Should I be concerned about his statements/actions? What should I do?

Question about online dating?
Trust your gut, girl!!! I'm actually an online dating success story...I met my (current) fiance through an online dating site. But, of course, I didn't meet him immediately so I've had LOTS of online dating experience. There are quite a few things going on with this guy, so lets look at some of them.





You said "all seems to be going well." Ummm...from your later comments I would suggest all is NOT going well.





1. He wants you to have his baby. This is a very strange request from someone you've had 3 dates with. To me it says he is just saying things to say them, and he doesn't care about what he is saying.





2. So he is talking about a baby, and talking about how aggressive he is in the bedroom. And says he is "holding out" until you're ready...like you should be excited about this? What are his other options? He would have to hold out until you were ready anyways.





3. Then he obviously views what you're doing as simply casually dating. If he continues to search the site, that is ok if you haven't talked about being exclusive (meaning you're open to date others as well).





If you have a gut feeling that he isn't what he says he is, you need to listen to that. You have listed three things, two of which should be red flags coming up for you. The third shouldn't be a flag unless he is telling you he doesn't go on the site anymore, and you can see that he does. No one can tell you what to do. You need to figure that out for yourself. Personally, based on the things you listed I would have safety concerns. It is ok to share that you're having concerns, or to simply say you're no longer interested in dating. Or of course, you can continue dating him. Your choice, but I always advise fellow women to listen to their gut!





Good luck!
Reply:Yeah seems a bit strange. You are only dating but if he is acting as if he wants to be in a serious relationship then him checkin that site is a bit dodgey i think. Plus he wants you to have his baby? wtf lol was he joking or serious when he said it? cause if serious then id be a bit cautious of the guy.
Reply:WHOA!!!!! i'm glad alamrs are going off in your head!


you know the statements for a few dates do seem over top but if he really meant them then he wouldnt be looking on online sites STILL trying to find a online date! it doesnt make sense! this guy doesnt know what the hell he wants....or maybe he does and you maybe rights...he's a player...


your concern is good maybe you shulld confront him if you havent and ask him why he still looks online .....i dont know what reasonable answer he can give...but i guess if you care for him its good to ask him and if you care for yourself its good that you make sure you dunt get hurt!


good luck!!!!!!!!!!

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