We were matched on eharmony and have been exchanging e-mails since mid December. He is 39 and I’m 34 both single educated professionals. Both living in the Caribbean but on different islands.We have swopped photos and exchanged texts..nothing too deep or hot and heavy. We want to meet and he plans to fly to me though nothing concrete.Its going good.He wants to ‘get to know me’ online and then to meet and for there to already be some closeness so that if there is physical chemistry then the relationship can progress smoother and faster. We are looking for life partners so the search while fun has a real intention. I need advice because I feel uncomfortable opening up too much to a man that is likely to be having simultaneous online or maybe in person relationships..I am easier with him coming to meet me as us still strangers.This is partly cultural as this is not part of my culture, I cant ‘play’ with men and feel uncomfortable even cyber dating like this.
Adult online dating question - cultural issues?
This is a tough one primarily because I have never cyber dated. First off, I don't think it is a cultural issue, I think it is an issue of maintaining safety, both from the physical and emotional stand point. So then, I would ask the question straight away "how many others are you having an on-line relationship at this time?" I would also just tell him that you are more comfortable with meeting him as strangers to protect your feelings but at the same time you realize that for the relationship to proceed, you are willing to become somewhat vulnerable. Finally, I would stand my ground and tell him what your terms are for continuing - that is, we need to meet sooner than later but understand that I do not "play".
Good luck and hope it all works out for you.
Reply:it's the same as meeting someone where you live!!! you don't know about that person or if they are seeing someone...
so if you're getting to know him....... just like you would someone close to you........... you gotta trust him!!!!
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