Does online dating kill spontaneity in dating?

I don't want a woman knowing what I do, how much I make, etc....





Whatever happened to know each other through conversation?





Why does online dating seem like such a sad state of affairs?

Does online dating kill spontaneity in dating?
You can put as much or as little information on your profile as you see fit to. But I can tell you from experience that you'll get far more 'activity' with more information.





On-line dating is much different than meeting in person because you don't have the luxury of sensing that 'instant connection' that makes you want to find out more about the person that you do when seeing someone face to face. All you have to go on are common interests, compatibility in lifestyle, education level, career choices...etc.





I did the on-line dating thing for about a year. And yes...it felt a little like looking through a Crate and Barrel catalog sometimes...but really...what else do you have to go on when deciding whether or not you want to take the time to meet someone...other than their photos (which, many times, I found out were not very accurate depictions of the person once I met them...so you can't even really count on photos).





I finally gave up on it, because it made me more depressed than not meeting ANYONE. But that's just MY experience. I know three people who met 'the one' on a dating website...(my ex husband included...heh)....
Reply:Yes it does kill spontaneity in dating.





I hate it and I would never date online. But maybe i'm biased cos i also hate facebook and myspace lol
Reply:That's a really good question, actually. I never thought about it that way.





But, there are certain things I want to know about a person before I date them (blame it on getting old, I don't have years to make mistakes or take my time, grin!)





I do want a certain level of education, income, occupation, etc. in a man - and I can match that with mine. I don't ask anything from a man that I don't bring to the table myself. And, in online dating, it's easier to specify that up front, before you've met anyone.





In person I probably would not reject a person for not meeting certain criteria, but online, there's no rejection - if a person doesn't meet the criteria I list, they don't even get matched with me and we'll never know.





Do I miss some nice guys that way? I'm sure I do.....





Good question.
Reply:Because online dating isn't real dating. It's nothing more than just a fantasy. Now, yes, you can get names, phone numbers, professions, and a few other little tidbits of info, but everything else needs to be learned as you go out to dinner, shows, this, that, or the other thing for the next year or two.
Reply:Nope, it makes it easier to find someone who is completely compatable, you know their intentions and have an idea of their long term goals.





I think that the only reason people think that you have to be desperate in order to do it is because of the back lash years ago. Now it is safe, secure, and you're virtually guaranteed to find someone who you will enjoy...

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