Online Dating has anyone had true success?

I'm just curious, dating in general just scares me from all of the horror stories my best friends have been through. All the guys in my area, go from intelligent conversationalists to bumbling idiots in 30 mins. Not to mention they all treat me like I'm just their friend, so I'm thinking about trying the online thing but I'm not going into anything blind.

Online Dating has anyone had true success?
Well, I had heard good things about online dating, and tried it myself at one point. Online dating is really nothing more than another "option" for you to try and meet some new people in addition to meeting them in real life. It is certainly no silver bullet for instantly finding your true love.





The biggest problem with online dating nowadays is that an extremely large amount of people have turned to it. If you are a guy, like me, and attempting to email an attractive woman, you're competing with thousands of other guys in your area. I read somewhere that guys greatly outnumber girls on online dating, and girls, especially attractive ones, can received dozens to hundreds of emails a week. This results in having a very small chance of that person paying attention to your profile over someone elses. In addition, since you can "screen" people by checking out their profiles, you have to be very careful what you say in it because things that you write can be interpreted very differently by different people. And once someone has found something they don't like about your profile, even one small thing, you're typically crossed off of their list.





So, it is very hard to get that initial connection, however, once you do (and remember it's all a numbers game in trying to meet someone, especially online), you have some other things to worry about. People seem to be very good at finding that one picture of them that makes them very good looking, whether it's because of some extraordinary lighting or a shot from 6 years earlier. You can never be guaranteed that someone will look the same when you meet them. The few times I actually met someone in person after meeting them online, I was quite surprised how different they looked. If you do meet in person after meeting online, make sure you choose a public area (coffee shop, etc) to be safe.





Now, the other downside is that most websites charge you for this service of theirs. That is, if you actually want to contact another member, which is the whole point. So you basically have to pay, and it's not exactly cheap. I ended up deciding that the amount of money I was paying and the results I was getting just weren't worth it to me, so I stopped trying online dating. There are some free websites (plentyoffish.com). But, I did not find it any better than the ones I paid for, other than the fact it was free. The same problems still existed.





Now, I've made this sound mostly bad. But, the good thing is that it is just another "tool" in your belt in meeting someone. As long as you don't mind paying the monthly fees and spending the time to update your profile regularly (to keep it "bumped" and on top of the "Recently Updated/Active" list that most websites have), then it can be a very good thing. As you are a woman, you'll likely receive a lot of responses from guys, so your experience may vary dramatically from mine. I would say go ahead and give it a shot and form your own opinion on how effective it is. I really hope that it works out good for you. I know that it was worked for other people, so there's no reason not to at least try!
Reply:At least the men in your area start as an intelligent conversationalist!!!


I have tried on-line dating and dated some very good quality men, I found the biggest obstacle was that often it was a long distance sort of thing and that is hard to do.


I wouldn't say it is for the desperate. I am definately not.


Are your chances of catching a fish better in the pond or in the ocean?


I never encountered anyone who wasn't what they said they were and never had any scarey experiences.
Reply:I had at least thirty first dates with losers. I had decided to give it up but I had one more date already scheduled. It was a hit and we dated for two years and got married six months ago. It was a beautiful time in my life because I am older. He died suddenly three weeks ago. I'd say, Go for it and remember: you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you met your prince.


Best wishes.
Reply:I'm engaged to the man I met on e-Harmony.com. We are so good for each other. Had our first date on December 26, 2005. Been together since.
Reply:Only the desperate would try online dating. People could disguise themselves online and you would never know.
Reply:This did not happen to me personally, but my co-worker is married to her online dating person.So far so good it is two years into the marrige. Looks like it is going strong. Good Luck. Hope this helped

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