I am new to online dating, at what point do you meet?

I'm 50 and separated-new to online dating and have 'met' a guy online---his 'rule' is 2 weeks online chat and if not willing to meet by then---thats it.


I'm new after 30 years one marriage, haven't dated another many in 31 years...so 2 weeks is still frightful to me, yet his emails make me laugh and we have a lot in common. But I don't want to be 'forced' yet. I am too vulnerable...and if I tell him I might scare him off! Yikes?

I am new to online dating, at what point do you meet?
I met my fiance about two months after chatting with her online. Geez it was about a month and a half before she even gave me her real name and phone number so we could speak on the phone rather than the computer. Be careful of what information you give and who you speak with here. This is a very powerful tool and as such there are a lot of schemers and dreamers, losers and users. I also was knew to this dating thing and met one other lady prior to meeting my lady and this one was a loco. I am physically challenged and we meet to have dinner and she had me moved in with her, etc..etc...immediately. After high tailing it out of there I was almost scared to meet anyone else but I did go ahead and meet this other gal whom I shall walk down the aisle with next May 20. We live 2.5 hours from each other and speak on phone daily and see each other each weekend. Best of luck to you also but please remember to be wary, not paranoid, but careful of information you choose to give online.
Reply:Please do not let yourself be intimidated by some 'player' with his two week rules--he obviously spends too much time in cyberspace. Only you can decide if you want and feel comfortable with the situation and ready to meet someone face to face. A better idea for you is to join a new club, or go to college to take courses (male dominated field) in order to meet some real people.





The best commercial I've seen, is the 500 lb guy in his underwear sitting in front of his pc, writing some nonsense. Cyber space is too anonymous for such a vulnerable person such as yourself. Take your time, and for heaven's sake get to know yourself before you take the plunge back into a relationship!
Reply:Take your time,meet with someone when you feel like it not when someone thinks you should,there are no rules to how long that takes,don't feel pressured into meeting a man before you feel comfortable. Don't worry about scaring this guy off, it's all up to you, your safety comes first. I have had a few dates with people that I have met on-line and wouldn't meet any of them until I was happy about it.
Reply:Take your time! Online dating can be very risky and dangerous....you are not a child so you don't need to be pressured into anything! Besides there are exceptions to EVERY "rule"
Reply:In my lengthy history of online dating the true answer is never
Reply:I'm available and 50+
Reply:I have a problem with his "rule"! I guess it depends on how desperate you are to meet him. And how much he really wants to meet you! Stay in charge of your life! If you decide that this guy is worth a little "bending to his rules", play his game. But if you really enjoy his chatting, meet with him. Women have a way about them that lets men think they are in charge when really, they aren't!
Reply:You yourself will know when you want to meet someone... my daughter has used a lot of on line dating services... starts out with email, then instant messaging, the to phone conversations, then they woud meet in a very public place for coffee or a meal... I always had her give me her username and password to the site she is using to access the ones she talking with, in case she was to disappear...LOL And when she met someone she always gave me thir info before she left. To me dating services is no different than meeting someone in a bar or restaurant. She has not found her "soul mate" but she has meet a lot of nice people and has dated some more than once. The way she works keeps her from having time to get out and meet people. I may have told you more than what you asked but I wanted you to know her whole experience. hope this helps!!!!
Reply:tell him that. and if your gonna meet him my suggestion is go to the gym and grab a guy benching 500 pounds w/ one had and his eyes closed so at least your safe. cuz this online guy could been in prison for all you know.
Reply:I can understand what you saying, but I also somewhat agree with him. If your in a position where it's not an inconvenience to meet (live relatively close to each other) then I don't think a "face to face" after 2 weeks is asking too much. It's just really hard to get to know someone over the net. Just make sure you meet in a safe, very public space, you meet him there don't let him come to your house yet. Might even arrange for a friend of yours to be there also sitting close by just in case.


I guess you just need to ask yourself if you are ready to start dating. Cause honestly I'm not sure you are. Might need to wait until your not so vulnerable. Good luck