Online Dating, why don't girls ever IM or email me?

I've tried several online dating sites, and rarely ever get any girls e-mailing me. I'm a 24/m, and I'm wondering if the competition is just too stiff at my age? I.e. Every guy from age 24-50 is sending cute girls messages, trying to get a response.





I have a witty profile, and good picture of myself, and always try to write original emails to whomever I contact. What's the problem here? Why don't people write to me or respond to me?

Online Dating, why don't girls ever IM or email me?
Guys email the girls 98% of the time. Seriously, it's 50 to 1.





Have you tried okcupid? They're free, and have hilarious questions to sort out the wheat from the chaff.
Reply:I have tried many online dating services too, and I have tried to get a few guys to respond to me, and the only guys that do respond to my emails are the ones that I flatter in a respectful way. When you see a woman who's profile shows you everything you want in a woman, send her an email that she can't ignore. Write something that both flatters her and intrigues her to want more.





A simple email that doesn't have a lot of spark in it tends to be ignored. When guys send me generic emails, I tend to overlook them, expecting more.





Have faith and keep trying, I am sure that you will be able to find the one you are meant to be with. Give it some time and let things take it's natural course. I hope that you have better luck in the love department than I have had.
Reply:Ask a woman you know to look over your profile, and to give you her honest opinion. Soemtimes being too witty is a way to hide things, so maybe cut down on the witty part, and be more honest and open.
Reply:i'll bet lots of men feel as you do. i'm sure there aren't many men who have full mailboxes and booked weekends. you say you're young and worth catching? then you'll be caught. a good man really is hard to find but some girl will find you. just make sure you're ready when she does. if she takes the time to find you don't turn her away without giving her a considerable chance.
Reply:Go out in the real world, don't waste your time online.
Reply:This is the internet. Girls very rarely go after Guys online. For several reasons:





1.) girls are doing it just for fun


2.) they have about 100 responses to deal with


3.) girls are just loooking for feedback


4.) girls still dont trust the internet community 100%





take any one of those and hit the supermarket. Thats where I met my girlfriend of 6 years. All the best.
Reply:possibly because there isnt anyone from your area on the dating sites that are seeing your profile. girls are sentimental and dont like the idea of dating sites honestly. or it could be that girls see it as desperation when a guy is looking for a girl on the internet. go out there and meet some ladies man. they are there. waiting.
Reply:Could be loads of reasons! Depends what you've written. It may sound funny and clever to you, but what does it sound like to a girl?? Maybe you should get a girls opinion on what you've written?
Reply:If you wanna meet girls, go out!
Reply:You have to email them... there are thousands of men out there and i would expect each woman gets 100's of responses a day.. if your an average Joe... you need to send out over 200 emails to women...





don't expect any messages from women the ones who do reply without you sending them a response... Well I wont go there... believe me them are the ones you don't want to meet..





get pro-active dude.. that's the only way believe me i have experience in this area.. and as one reply read: on-line dating does suck.... Good luck
Reply:did you pay the money it asks for?
Reply:Most people of your age go out to meet people. Online services are more geared towards older people.
Reply:Web dating sucks. Go out and get drunk. You will meet lots of people.
Reply:You are right, the competition is very stiff. There is atleast 5 guys for every girl on here. The girls are so inundated with messages that 1) they don't need to search thru profiles and email guys and 2) you have to have an eye catching one liner to get them to respond back to your emails. I think alot of women just are there for all the attention they get and are really not serious about finding anyone. Hope that helps a little