Ladies: Can't get any success w/ online dating. Do girls consider me a loser? Is my experience normal? details

I'm trying to get a sense of how my success with online dating compares to other guys. I decided to give online dating a try because I work with mostly older people as a Software Engineer. I don't really have many friends either, so it's tough to meet people.





I consider myself successful compared to others my age, I make around 80,000/year at 25 years old. I am very physically active and in excellent shape and quite muscular. I'm 6foot 190lbs, six pack, everything. Everything about myself is very good except I don't have an attractive face. I'm very average and my face has a naturally serious expression to it which causes some people to think I look scary.





So on to my success online: I joined eharmony for 5 months. Most women blocked communication with me upon viewing my profile. Some talked (maybe 10%). Out of the girls that talked, only 3 agreed to schedule a date with me. One of these girls cancelled, the other went on 2 dates before rejecting me, and the other went on one.

Ladies: Can't get any success w/ online dating. Do girls consider me a loser? Is my experience normal? details
hmm okay well who you are is the person your supposed to be just be yourself and don't change sure lots of people will reject you and you'll reject some peope but it all shows how a good relationship works. loosen up a bit a girlfriend isn't the most crucial aspect of your life right now try just making a girl FRIEND online first then it'll progess from there good luck!! :)
Reply:Put up a picture and lets have a look-see. What do you have in your profile that may cause people to stray away from you? Maybe your should re-do your profile to reflect more what women want...
Reply:Looks aside, maybe it is your personality. The old story about first impressions is a very true one. A good first impression always increases your odds for a second, third, date...I wish you luck.
Reply:I'm a firm believer that there is someone for every one. Don't try getting the the hottest girls to go out with you, just try nice girls. Practice softening your expression in front of a mirror. It will feel a little unnatural at first, but not looking mean will do wonders for your dating life. Smile more...even when you don't feel like it...start smiling at random strangers...they'll smile back...it gets easier the more you do it. Maybe have someone give you help with your profile. You will have to come across as confident, but not cocky with a sense of humor. Don't expect things to happen quickly...it may be a while before you find the right one...but then again, you have the rest of your life, right?
Reply:did you try match.com?





keep trying sweetie, there's someone for everyone.
Reply:No fear my brother. You need to pay attention to detail. The way you walk, talk, and dress are equally important. Are you funny? Are you spontaneous? There are some women that go for looks but you need to keep looking for that girl thats going to love you inside and out.
Reply:This is the wrong venue to look for women dude. If you want to meet girls, I would recommend joining a group that does the things you like to do (running, climbing, hiking, fencing, biking....whatever). This way, the women you meet will have the same interests as you. Also, it sounds like you are looking. Women, somehow, know to avoid men that are looking. If you can become comfortable being alone, women will be drawn to you. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but this is the way of the world.





Good luck.
Reply:ummm I answered this already why haven't you e-mailed me...misslisaxng@yahoo.com.....go back and read what I wrote..and then get back to me!
Reply:Well, its better to get rejected before you get accepted..


Imagine someone accepting you for all the wrong reasons, then it turns out to be a big mess all because you weren't patient....So, if they rejected you then that's okay because at least they were honest about it and didn't give you the run around, in which, that has given you the opportunity to keep yourself available for someone who has desires "like wise"...


As far as you wondering why? and if it's because of your looks and what not, all I can say is everyone has there own taste...Better or no luck next time only leaves room for another time=)
Reply:why don't you just go out more often and socialize? online dating isn't for everyone, and it definitly sounds like you aren't one of those people that are destined to find your lover on the internet. stop trying so hard and just live. your special someone will come along. until then travel abroad, meet people, be yourself, and most importantly have fun.
Reply:Online dating seem to be the in trend right now but also try other forms of meeting women. Maybe you are coming off too serious and it may be scaring some women off. You seem to have very good qualities as a person. You just need to loosen up. Remind yourself to smile and keep a good personality during your dates. Looks don't matter to a lot of women, only the superficial ones and those are the ones you want to stay away from anyway. We usually don't find love when we're looking for it so just enjoy yourself on the dates without any expectations and love will eventually find you. It takes time and patience. There is someone out there for everyone and when you least expect it, it will come to you.
Reply:Getting a date on an online site sometimes is very dangerous,but I would suggest that you try putting your profile on some of the sites below.Most girls are affraid of meeting the first time and just have to get to know you better.Cheer up,you will find your mate if thats what God intends for you.Think of yourself as "SOMEBODY SPECIAL"


http://www.singles.net


http://www.plentyoffish.com


http://www.sugardaddy4me.com
Reply:okay,...let me ask you: are you desperate for a date and do you have high expectations from your dating,...these desperate women do...!





read between the lines: "...yes, but children do not live with me..." "...my children mean the world to me..." "...i want to stay close to family and friends..." i am tired of parties and socializing...!"





these are hints you are "buying" a ready-made family and this person has experienced a lot of sex, but now, they want money for sex,...they are looking for a comfortable life and if you don't have the money and the "wild-life", as well as the connections,...then, go to hell...!!!





as a journalist, i have to read between the lines and understand its meaning...!
Reply:Try a different dating site - there may be one more suited to professionals. Try rewriting your profile - maybe you come over too much the computer geek. Keep having photos taken until you get one with a smile. Try checking the small ads in the local paper. Try your church, sports club, girls you meet in the local shopping mall - small talk first, take it sloooow. Try your best friends' sisters - this works, ask my daughter-in-law! And don't give up hope.


I met my bloke on my fourth different dating site, 9 months after I first tried on-line dating, and everyone says I've never looked so happy. And remember, you may have to kiss a lot of frogs.....
Reply:People do judge appearances, don't let them fool you, looks matter. The face is the most important part....don't you agree?